I find that it is best to answer questions or explain myself when the person is ready to hear the truth. Often, people have preconceived ideas that are totally untrue. I find it a waste of time until they are ready.

It is a great feeling to be accepted and not judged. Many people have deserted me. Back stabbed me. Gossiped about me. Slandered me. I am finding friendly people here that don’t want to judge or be judged. I can live with that. ☺

Spend time each day taking care of oneself.
This is not really selfish. If it helps to keep one healthy and clear headed than it is ok to support yourself.

I’m just trying to figure a few things out.